I have a baby, who cries at night. She cries because she needs to be fed. In our house, the baby eats nothing but breast milk, so I can’t actually feed her without dipping into the precious supply of refrigerated (or frozen) breast milk we have on hand so that my wife can occasionally be away from the kid for a few hours.
All the books say that the dad should probably get up when the baby cries, and bring the baby to the mom. This is apparently for Fairness. It’s not fair that the mom has to get up and the dad gets to sleep. So to be fair, they should both wake up equally, so that they can be more equally sleep-deprived.
Grumpy, exhausted people are worse at taking care of a baby than happy, alert people. If only one parent must be exhausted, it only makes sense that the other should try not to be.
So not only do I not go get the baby, but I occasionally put in ear plugs so that I don’t even have to HEAR her crying. Yes, that’s right, I said it. I’ll sleep and dream while my wife hauls herself out of bed yet again to sit there while the baby guzzles the good stuff. Everyone’s happy in the house except Mom.
And in the morning, when Mom goes to yoga, or wherever she wants, then I can take care of the baby without wishing I was dead. Or I can go to the office and actually do a decent job. Or if I’m not at work, I can even keep the baby occupied and happy while Mom has a nap.
This is the only sensible way for us.