Link<\/a>)<\/p>\n(First of all, it’s not neglect, in any normal sense of the word. But that’s beside the point, I think.)<\/p>\n
I believe that sex is natural, ok, and generally a good thing. I also believe that knowing all about it does not lead to having it before you’re ready. I think it’s probably more true that lacking all the details leads to poor sexual decision-making.<\/p>\n
So, taking culture out of it, is it harmful to a kid to see two adults in a loving relationship having sex on a regular basis? Is it damaging?<\/p>\n
I could see how it could be scarring if the child didn’t know what was going on. But if she’s informed, then what exactly is the damage to her psyche? To me, it’s a lot better than pretending that it doesn’t happen and making the whole subject embarassing and awkward.<\/p>\n
This is all assuming that there’s some education going on. Some explaining about why it’s an adult thing, and only for people who know each other and trust each other, etc. etc. etc.<\/p>\n
But ok, we can’t leave culture aside. That girl has already mentioned to someone that she saw the adults having sex. In our idiotic culture, you just don’t talk about it like that, so she’s obviously outside the norm. And there’s no doubt that her peers will find her to be very strange. So she could very well be damaged in a way, because she won’t fit in, and she’ll be told that something bad happened and that her mom’s a criminal.<\/p>\n
But I just think that’s kind of a shame. Because as far as being a human, I don’t think she’d be hurt by it. Only when she learns from other people that it’s WRONG will she be hurt. She’ll be hurt by being made into a weird kid. But if all the kids saw sex as an ordinary part of a loving adult relationship, then she wouldn’t be weird.<\/p>\n
It’s sort of like women showing their breasts. You can’t do it around my neighborhood, but in other neighborhoods in the world, it’s normal. There’s nothing inherently wrong with it. And, as I’ve said dozens of times in the past, it’s bizarre that we can show the kind of violence that we allow, while screaming in terror at the sight of a nipple.<\/p>\n
Having sex in front of the kid puts that kid in a position that is no good for her. I definitely agree that it’s not in her best interest to have that going on, and her mom shouldn’t have done it. But I can imagine a healthy society with healthy people who do allow it as a matter of course.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I’m up late working, about to go to bed, and I see this item linked from cruel.com: A couple is found guilty of “Neglect” for having sex in front of their nine year old daughter. They didn’t force her to watch, understand, but they didn’t hide it in any way. They get 3 years probation. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-humanity"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/weeklyrob.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/weeklyrob.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/weeklyrob.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/weeklyrob.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/weeklyrob.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=17"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/weeklyrob.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/weeklyrob.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=17"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/weeklyrob.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=17"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/weeklyrob.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=17"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}